Boundaries Archive

Donkeys


Many years ago - when I was still a church minister - I had a picture of a donkey on the back of my office door. Underneath it, I had written, “So. Are you leading, riding or carrying the donkey today?” It was a personal reference to Aesop’s fable about the old man, the boy and donkey. Follow [...]

What Are You Talking Yourself Into?


You know that relentless chatter that goes on inside your own head? Like a running commentary on the world around you and your performance in it? Sometimes I’m aware of it and how it’s affecting me; sometimes I’m in control of it, using it to my advantage; at still other times it seems to run [...]

How the war was won between neighbourly rivals.


Matt Heale has written for GC before. This is a welcome piece about (amongst other things) overcoming that “you have to choose” pressure we sometimes face when caught between two parties who are in dispute. *** Many of us have gone through our fair share of seeing neighbours come and go. Some we love and [...]

Gulliver’s Pocketwatch


The Lilliputians in “Gulliver’s Travels”, remember those little guys? At one stage of the story, they note that Gulliver’s pocket watch is probably a god. This is because he rarely did anything without consulting it. He called it his oracle and said it appointed the time for every action of his life. “Travels” was written [...]

To Thine Own Self Be True … Even at Work


It can be thoroughly frustrating to work amidst unhealthy and unethical practises. Defining yourself may be a goal that takes a lot of hard work, but you will retain your integrity AND you just might become the influence that prevents others from blindly following an organisation’s unhealthy practises and values.   From the time we commence kindergarten, we are conditioned to find the [...]

Cutting out Carbs


  I am indebted to the excellent blogging and tremendous generosity of nutritionist Kathryn Elliot, who yesterday wrote about How to deal with a carb addiction  (my downfall!). Here’s an excerpt: Beating carbohydrate cravings is all about managing your blood sugar levels and keeping insulin under control. Each time your blood sugar levels drop too low [...]

Defending the Gates


There was a polite knock at our front door last night. It was about 6 pm on a Saturday. My first thought was “One of the neighbour’s kids must have kicked his ball over our fence.” Lo and behold! When I opened the door, there stood – resplendent in his white shirt and even whiter [...]

Self-definition: What Do You Want?


I spent some time last year singing the virtues of the magical word NO as a means for protecting ourselves, setting healthy limits, marking the boundaries of a better life. But in defining ourselves – whether in relationships, marketing, or whatever – at some stage we have to say YES to something.  Have you ever met someone who defines [...]